They start to believe that being humble means not having a voice. They think asking critical questions or challenging the status quo is a form of disrespect to “elders.”

That’s how we end up with so many intelligent girls who are scared to lead or step forward. They become timid.

I believe 90% of who we become in the future is shaped from the foundation, early on. The character we carry as adults often starts forming at that stage. Some people adjust in adulthood, but for many, it’s difficult.

Personally, I have issues with how Africans (yes, it’s an African thing) place so much emphasis on humility without also teaching boldness. “Respect your elders” is good advice for a child, but many young ones, whose minds are still developing mistakenly think being bold or expressive is a form of disrespect. They grow up thinking they shouldn’t speak when elders are talking.

This might not be your exact point, but we need to start instilling boldness in children. A bold child can speak anywhere. That’s where leadership starts from.